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Remembering Gordie

This weekend in my homily I am remembering the story of my friend Gordie and his fight with the demon of shame.

Here is a short video that deals with some of his demons and how a few folks, like the “unauthorized” breakaway disciple in the Gospel for this weekend, helped Gordie to a enjoy a peace filled death this past June.

Road to Success

Open Table Fellowship

The traditional view of the table of the last supper:

Last Supper da Vinci











Another way to look at it:

Last Supper Eichenberg

Hi folks- I have been away wandering as any good itinerant would do and have not been posting for sometime. I will spare you all the details except to say thanks to those who sent me some notes wondering if I had fallen of the edge of the world.

I haven’t and as tie permits I will be posting now and again and perhaps even starting up some new adventures on the internet.

I am preaching the homily this week and I wanted to post a clip of the video below from the Passion of the Christ- if I can remember how do do this:

That seems to have worked.

I love this clip and plan to make this weekends homily about Jesus the builder of tables.

Happiness is...

I was wandering around the Internet the other day and came upon a story that is supposedly told by one of this past century’s great philosophers- John Lennon of Beatle’s fame. In this short quote, he tells us the most important life lesson his mother ever taught him.

“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life” (John Lennon).

Happiness is a subject I have wanted to explore in a homily for some time. In fact it is an area I have been actively studying for years.
Happiness it turns out is actually a simple idea that is very difficult for most of us to fully attain. If you try to define happiness, you will soon find it is much easier to describe what it is not contrary to what it might be.

Another modern day poet PHARRELL WILLIAMS- the guy with the funny hat- took a stab at defining happiness in the number 1 song of 2014 simply called Happy. Here is the chorus:

Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
Because I’m happy……

I have no idea what he means when he says,” Happiness is a room without a roof,” because to me that is simply being outside- maybe that’s what he means? (Someone answered this for at church on Sunday- Click here for what it means!)

The second line, however, is quite interesting as it asks you to clap along if you believe happiness is the truth.
Two thousand years ago, Jesus told his followers that he was the truth. What if we took this line and adapted to read “Clap along if you feel like happiness is the Christ”.

The third line of the chorus to the song Happy asks us perhaps the most profound question of all:

Clap along if you know what happiness is to you….

That is a tough question. I see it as difficult because for people of all ages, from 7 to 107, they often set out to find what they think will make them happy only to attain it and too be disappointed that they are no happier than they were when they started down this now false path.

Was Jesus himself a happy person?

Today’s gospel reading offers us a glimpse into a potential answer to this question. In this story from Mark’s gospel, Jesus has just returned from a 40 day fast in the desert. He has learned that John the Baptist has been arrested. I suppose he would have every right to be miserable and unhappy.

We find him walking along the shores of the lake called the Sea of Galilee, and he offers up a simple invitation to two brothers in their boats- “Come follow me….”

The evangelist suggests that Simon, and his brother drop their nets and follow him. Soon after, in an even more shocking recruitment, we are told that John and James, the sons of Zebedee abandon their father to follow this itinerant preacher.
Why is this so shocking? Grown men in the time of our Lord would never consider abandoning their father, their families and their business in this manner.

Jesus continues to wander around the Sea of Galilee attracting followers to his ministry.
I would argue that the people who look at Jesus see something in him, and they say to themselves- Whatever this man has I want that for my life.

What did Jesus have that these early disciples wanted?

Could it have been that they could see in him the purest form of joy or a happiness which could be called peace?
I am convinced that Jesus was the happiest person ever to walk this earth. Many of his teachings offered lessons for us about how we can live as happy people at peace with who we are and with one another.

Here are three of Jesus’ core teachings all of which have a direct impact on our happiness:

Love is a verb- Jesus consistently tells us that we are built to love. That sounds easy until we realize that he is not talking about love as a romantic feeling but as a very concrete verb. The love Jesus talks about has to do with the way we treat ourselves and others. Read St. Paul to Corinthians for a complete definition of what love is, and you will find that the road to happiness means we need to be: patient/ kind/ never jealous or boastful.

The Art of Forgiveness– There will be no happiness or real peace in our life, unless we master the art of forgiveness. Why is this required? Because none of us can always love the other (or ourselves) all the time in the way, Jesus teaches us. We will hurt people and they will hurt us. Therefore, forgiveness is often times the only real route back to happiness.

Mercy and Kindness for those we are closest to and to the stranger– Time and again Jesus encourages us to love those who are closest to us and often times this may seem to be the most natural people to love but strangely these will also be the ones, we will need to practice the Art of Forgiveness with most frequently.

Just as often, Jesus teaches us and shows us that the path to true happiness involves freely giving our love to the stranger. One of the hidden truths of giving our happiness away to those who we do not know is that it is returned to us many times over.
A paradox of sorts is that the more we actively seek happiness the farther away it gets from our grasp. When we concentrate on love/ forgiveness and mercy the more happiness seems to find us.

It is also true that there will be times of suffering and pain that will make happiness seem like only a memory. Jesus suffered greatly and one of the reasons he chose the path he did was to show us that suffering was a part of human life.
In John Chapter 14, Jesus tells the disciples that they must not fear. He knows the sadness of the passion, and the crucifixion will be more than they can handle.

He tells the gathered disciples and us that he wants to give us a present- he says Peace I give you- and then he says even more when he tells us that it is his peace he gives us.

When we choose to be one with Christ then happiness is truth. Even though we may not be worthy of this deep happiness, all we have to do is say the word and our spirit shall be healed.

The gift of true happiness which is Christ is what allows us to “Go in Peace, and we glorify our Lord by giving this happiness away freely to all we encounter”.

Thanks to everyone who has been dropping by to see if I am alive. I have been away just wandering (Wow where did that 4 months go? ) as any good itinerant would do but I am back for now anyway.

To be honest I need a place to post a video for a homily I am giving on Sunday about Happiness. A strange topic perhaps given many religious folk want to focus on we really have nothing to be happy about given all the evil and misery in the world.

Perhaps they have a point but here is the Billboard’s 2014 Top song of the year that offers up an alternative to being miserable- which is of course To Be Happy!

In Search of HappinessA famous Sufi mystic, Rabiya, was searching for something on the street outsider her small hut. The sun was setting and darkness was descending, as few people gathered around her. “What have you lost? What are you searching for? Perhaps we can help,” they said to Rabiya.

Rabiya said, “I have lost my needle.”

One amongst the people said, “Well, the sun is setting now and it will be very difficult to find the needle. Where has it fallen? That’ll help us narrow down the area on this big road. If we know the exact place, it will be easier to find it.”

Rabiya told them, “It is better not to ask me that question — because, actually, it has not fallen on the road at all. It has fallen inside my house.”

Everyone started giggling as if she was joking. Then a skeptic says out loud, “We always knew that you were a little insane! If the needle has fallen inside the house, then why are you searching for it on the road?”

“For a very simple reason: inside the house there is no light and on the outside a little light is still there,” Rabiya replied.

The people laughed and started dispersing. Rabiya called them back and said, “Listen! That’s exactly what you are doing: I was just following your example. You go on seeking bliss in the outside world without asking the most fundamental question: where exactly have I lost it?”

After a pause, she continues, “You have lost it inside, and yet you are looking for it on the outside for the very same reason — your senses are outward bound, your ears hear sounds on the outside, your hands touch things on the outside. That’s the reason why you are searching outside. For a very long time, I was also just searching on the outside. But the day I searched inwards, I was surprised. That is where I lost it and that is the only place it can be found.”

Where did summer go?

What the heck happened to the summer? A few folks may have noticed that I took some time off from the blog in August. I wish I could tell you this was a well planned out hiatus but truth be told I got myself so busy with stuff that I let my blogging slide a bit.

Well I am back although just as busy with stuff so I thought I would include the short video below as a reminder to myself of the value of time.

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Forrest Gump PosterHow many of you have seen the movie Forrest Gump?

Made 20 years ago the movie focused on a man who had a unique quality. He always told the truth.

It follows his life from childhood where things were not easy for Forrest because he was different.

As a young man, he joins the US Army and soon afterward he finds himself in Vietnam with his best friend in the world, Bubba, and his commanding officer Lieutenant Dan.

In one scene, we see the men involved in a battle and Forest carries his gravely wounded friend Bubba out of harm’s way only to have him die in his arms moments later. He also saves a seriously injured Lieutenant Dan who believes it is his destiny to die in battle. Dan does not perish from his wounds, but he does lose both his legs to amputation.

The scene I want to share with you takes place on Forrest’s shrimp boat. Lt. Dan has come to live with Forrest, but he remains an angry and bitter man. He asks Forrest a simple question- Where is your God Forrest? In a voice-over Forrest says that God must have heard Lieutenant Dan because at that very moment, the winds of a hurricane start to blow.

Next we find Dan up in the lookout tower having a raging argument with God. He dares God to come and get him.

Lt Dan at PeaceWhen the storm ends we see a transformed Lieutenant Dan. His anger has left him, and he looks at his friend and says, “You know Forrest I don’t think I ever thanked you for saving my life.” He then jumps into the water and starts to swim as if he has been freed from some heavy chains that were holding him down.

While watching his friend swimming freely, Forrest comes to the conclusion that on that stormy night Lieutenant Dan had made his peace with God.

I wanted to share this story with you because a few months ago someone asked me a simple question:

Is it ok to be mad at God?

He was asking because someone he knows seems locked into a state of being angry with God, and he was concerned about this behaviour.
I thought about the question for a moment and simply answered: If you can’t be mad at God, then who can you be angry with!

Some may want to argue with this simple answer, but I have been reflecting on it for weeks now and the more I think about it the answer becomes clearer in my mind.

Let me explain my sense of clarity in this area-although I do admit there is room here for others to challenge me as being too simple in my approach- much like Forest Gump perhaps.

There are many things that make us different as Christians from others who believe in a supreme being. The most significant difference is obvious. As followers of Christ, we believe that our God so loved the world he sent his only Son to be with us, and Jesus was fully human and divine.

Jesus is our God but unlike any of the other great religions of the world, our God knows what it means to have lived experiencing the full range of human emotions.

He knew joy and friendship. He loved his family. He grieved at the loss of his close friend Lazarus where he wept at his tomb. He would have known the sense of kinship at the last supper which was soon followed by the hurt of betrayal and abandonment only hours later at the Garden of Gethsemane. Jesus also knew anger.

There are many reasons to be angry at God. In an earlier version of this homily, I had several detailed real-life experiences where I witnessed people who had every right to hate God for the injustices they have experienced. I have to admit there have been times in my life, some recently, when I thought God must hate me for some unknown reason.

Anger is a naturally-occurring human emotion. It just happens. The key question is not is it ok to be angry but rather what is our response to that anger.

I would like to use the gospel reading today as a metaphor for one possible way to deal with the anger we feel towards God, the world, and most likely at a particular person or group of people.

In our gospel story, Jesus puts the disciples into a boat and tells them to proceed to the other side. He leaves them to pray. I am pretty sure that for most of the journey, the disciples do not even think about Christ as the sailing was smooth.

But then something changes and the waves and the wind start to batter the boat. Although it is left unsaid in the gospel, it is not unlikely that the disciples may well have felt abandoned by Jesus in their hour of greatest need.

In the gospel we are told, they are afraid, but we can substitute the word angry for some of them may well have blamed God for the storm.

The boat is a symbol of our lives and the raging seas our anger. We can get so comfortable in this state of being upset over some storm that has come into our lives; we fail to see that Jesus is always with us. To be healed, we need to find the courage to overcome our anger and to get out of the boat and walk towards Jesus. We need to trust that he will be there waiting for us right in the middle of the stormy waves of our life.

He tells Peter in the story- he tells all of us, especially when we are lost, perhaps awash in a negative emotion like anger, Do Not Be Afraid- I am with you until the end of the age.

Even if we do trust enough to get out of the boat of our anger, we may falter and start to sink again into a rage or the depths of despair.

Why does this happen? One reason is that when you move towards Jesus, you may start to see things in a different way, and that can be uncomfortable. You may see that your anger is turning into bitterness, and it is eating you alive. You may see that to be free you will have to offer someone forgiveness for the wrong that has transpired.

You may discover that the person you need to forgive is yourself.

Anger and resentment can become a way of life. Even though we are unhappy, perhaps miserable, we find that we have become comfortable in our misery.

Reaching out to Jesus during these times and embracing his teachings can be difficult, it requires a great deal of trust and faith, but if we take his hands, the seas will eventually calm. We will be able to get back into the boat of our life and continue the journey.
When we learn how to trust in Jesus completely, we will be able to weather the next storm, for there is always another storm.

If we listen carefully we will be able to hear him reassuring us that we have nothing to fear, and if we find the courage to take is hand, we will see that it is possible to Go in Peace, and even though we have been battered and bruised we can always choose to glorify the Lord, by the way, we choose to live our lives.

Several months ago, I had the opportunity to preach about the apostle we affectionately call doubting Thomas.

After the homily, an interesting thing started to happen to me. Several people came into my life after the homily, and they all seemed to have the same basic question which circles around the idea of doubting God and more specifically being mad at God.

The clips below are from Forest Gump. I will bet many of you have seen the movie more than once. One of the most famous clips is of Lt. Dan raging at God during a hurricane.

The setting of this scene which is a storm at sea and lost souls on a boat seems to fit well with this week’s gospel.


Lt. Dan Makes His Peace

This Sunday’s Readings

This weeks readings from the US Conference of Catholic Bishops, which uses the New American Bible.

Click here for THIS SUNDAY’s  readings

Click Here to Listen to THIS SUNDAY’s readings

The Word on Fire

The Word On Fire – Fr. Robert Barron’s internet site offers many interesting insights into all things Catholic. Fr. Barron has a full library of homilies that he has prepared and we will be featuring a link here to his 15 minute reflections on this week’s readings.

This Sunday: “Elijah is a contemplative who has the eyes to see and the ears to listen. God does not appear in the glory of the world. Rather, he appears in a silent way. Weed out of your heart all of those fears and desires that prevent you from discerning the silent presence of God. ”

Click here to listen to Fr. Barron’s Homily for This Sunday

Fr. Greg Friedman

Sunday Soundbites is a weekly, 90-second radio homily based on the Sunday readings, written and read by Fr. Greg Friedman, O.F.M. Sunday Soundbites is also heard on Catholic radio stations around the country.

This Sunday:Today’s Sunday readings have two stories, about two Biblical characters, whose qualities I’d like to possess.

Click here to listen to This Sunday’s Soundbite.

The ChurchYear.Net site is a resource that provides short and highly readable information on the Church Liturgical Year.

Ordinary Time is the liturgical period outside of the other liturgical seasons, and runs 33 or 34 weeks. In Latin, Ordinary Time is called Tempus Per Annum (“time throughout the year”). The season falls between Christmas and Lent, and between Easter and Advent, exclusive.

Click here to read more about Ordinary Time

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It is interesting how the internet connects folks and stories. I found this post in a weekly newsletter I get about happiness and it turns out they reprinted from the Huffington Post who got it from a blog called the Daily Moxie. Anyway, the list below is from a wonderful article written by Jocelyn Kelly.Jocelyn also attached a quote for each lesson.To read the article please click here. To enjoy a snapshot of Jocelyn’s wisdom have a look below:

Kids teaching1. Every day is a fresh start.
“Isn’t it nice to think that tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it yet?” – L.M. Montgomery.

2. Creative pursuits are fun and good for you.
“Happiness lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt

3. Be courageous.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” – Anais Nin.

4. Laugh every day.
“A day without laughter is a day wasted.” – Charlie Chaplin

5. Be active.
“Play energizes and enlivens us. It eases our burdens. It renews our natural sense of optimism and opens us up to new possibilities.” – Stuart Brown

6. Nurture friendship.
“In the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.” – Khalil Gibran

7. Be the hero.
“Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.” – Nora Ephron

8. Scars are badges of honor.
“Every day you either see a scar or courage. Where you dwell will define your struggle.” – Dodinsky

9. Try new things.
“Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.” – Andre Gide

10. Notice the little things.
“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” – Robert Brault

Catching Up

At the IndyI have been on a bit of a break for the past week. Well not a break so much as swamped with work, I let slide to the last minute.

One of the reasons is that a week ago I made my annual pilgrimage to the Toronto Indy-car race with my son. This marks about the 20th such trek we have made to this event as a father and son team and given that he is now 33 years old that means we started this tradition when he was in his early teens.

This is our traditional picture from the same place in the stands. Two things have changed in this picture.

The first is that in the early pictures, the CN Tower was clearly visible in the background. For those of you familiar with Toronto you might be able to make it out as it pokes above one of the many condominiums that now define downtown.

The second is my son. The picture is deceiving as he is standing on the row below me so it makes us look about the same height. He passed me in that department many years ago which I suppose is another rite of passage. I won’t actually tell you how much taller he is than I am but let’s just say people are often surprised we are related.

The quote below sums up my feelings about the weekend. Car racing is actually a very strange spectator sport, especially on a street course like Toronto. You only see the cars for about 8 seconds every minute as they whiz by at about 180 mph. It is noisy and on the Saturday, it rained for most of the day. Oh yea did I mention it is a three-day.

However, it is a tradition and as the folks at MasterCard like to remind us, the memories are priceless, even if the beer costs $10!


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