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It was a hot day, June 30th 1978, and I stood before the priest and he looked at me and said “Do you take this woman?” 5 Words that changed my life.

Almost 32 years after answering that question with a yes I found myself  in a small room with the woman I had spent all these years with and another man- a doctor- sitting there with a clipboard in hand and another 5 words that would change our lives again-“the pathology is not good!”

In a second everything changed and we were about to walk a journey many have traveled before us as we found out that this woman I had taken as my wife had cancer in both breasts.

We have talked a lot since that moment and both of us have commented on how surreal it all seems. This what not what we had planned. We know this happens to other people but not to us. What are we going to do now?

We have just returned home from the hospital after her surgery. We have been overwhelmed by the love of our family, friends and community. We have no idea where we are headed as we sit and wait for the next pathology report. All we know is that we have found the wisdom in the words “take it one day at a time.”

I have also come to see the power of family and community and what true love looks like when it is put into action.

I just started to use Twitter and I am often surprised how often a quote pops up that is so relevant to the way I feel or is something I need to hear. As i was wrtiing this post the following came my way from cyberspace:

The most precious possession that ever comes to a man in this world is a woman’s heart.

So true!

3 Responses to “5 Words that changed my life!”

  1. Sharon Griffin says:

    Such tough times for you both – my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.


  2. Mike says:

    I am sorry to hear this news. The two of you will be in my prayers.
    Times of hardships and obstacles like these are planned out, by God, for a reason. This is a sign and a lesson that life is not about how long you live for, it’s about who you’re with and what you do with your life. Life is about the messy bits, like you said earlier. Treasure the times you have with others. =D
    “life is not measured by the amount of breaths that we take, but the number of moments that take our breath away.”
    God Bless

  3. deaconmike says:

    Mike- Thanks for the note- Take Care